Lets Talk About Sex

One of the biggest parts of marriage is sex, which is a part of life. It is the way life is created. Not only does sex provide a way to create a family but it is a way for a couple to have a strong relationship. There are many benefits of have sexual intercourse when you are married. In the book Marriages and Families, the purpose of marriage sexuality for the husband and wife as individuals as well as the couple is explained.
• Becoming one- If anything else, sex unites a couple. It is a "symbol of total union" (Harper, 2012, para. 6).
• Connection with God- Physical intercourse is a union between mortals and deity. It gives us the power of procreation and creation which is a Godly power.
• Strengthening Bonds- Sex creates the emotional and spiritual bonds in marriage. It is also an expression of love and pleasure with your spouse.
• Procreation- The last purpose is used to continue generations.
It is very important to understand all of the purpose of physical intercourse. When a couple recognizes all of the purposes and have a balance of all than the couple grows together and not only receives satisfaction but also their relationship grows.

Sexual problems are cause of divorce in the first two years of marriage. The following attitudes found in Marriage and Families help promote marital sexuality;
1. Sexual interaction is a healthy part of marriage and shouldn't be a source of negative feelings or guilt.
2. Married persons deserve to feel good about their bodies and to view sexual expression and a normal, healthy part of their marriage.
3. Intimate, committed, and divinely supported relationship.
4. Sexuality enhances your intimate, marital relationship and bonds you together.
5. Couples should strive to have "we" relationship.
Something that is very important is that not all affectionate touches should lead to sex. "Holding hands, hugging, kissing, and cuddling should all be part of a marital relationship- without these shared behaviors always leading to sexual interaction" (Harper & Feinauer, 2012). We have sex to release chemicals is a healthy way which is very beneficial to both the man and the woman. There should also be a transition in the marriage from romantic love to emotionally intimate. This creates a binding force of companionship.

There is also a need for communication between a couple in order to have a healthy sexual relationship. You need to talk to each other about sex on a deep level! There is the need to make sure the couple is on the same page. There is a danger of something called low desire, high desire partners. Usually the desire for sex is not shared by both partners and it tends to create a lot of tension between the partnership. This is where communication is vital to the relationship, especially when it comes to sex. I find it interesting how sex can either build a relationship or destroy it. There are many purposes for sex and when understood in the proper way it is a beautiful thing.

Sources
Harper, J.M. & Feinauer, L., (2012). In A. Hawkins, D. Dollahite, & T. Draper (Eds.), Successful Marriages and Families (pp. 27-35). Brigham Young University.